tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post6108617127298785263..comments2024-03-28T01:53:58.120-07:00Comments on Sublime Mercies: Things You Say to Disabled People - But Shouldn't!Charlotte Issyvoohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-76780546265012442392021-01-21T15:20:49.451-08:002021-01-21T15:20:49.451-08:00Thanks so much. I know what you mean about discove...Thanks so much. I know what you mean about discovering your own prejudices against people within your own minority. When I was putting this post together, I listened carefully to what other disabled people were saying, especially if they had disabilities quite different from my own. I think we also internalize ableism and direct it towards ourselves in very emotionally destructive ways. Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-49921928558912700392021-01-21T15:18:02.461-08:002021-01-21T15:18:02.461-08:00It must be horrible. I was told some of these thin...It must be horrible. I was told some of these things since my teens, because I've had some symptoms since then, but I wasn't bombarded with the cascade of all of it till my late 30s.Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-77767157523033137522021-01-21T15:17:01.699-08:002021-01-21T15:17:01.699-08:00I'm so sorry I'm only seeing this now. I h...I'm so sorry I'm only seeing this now. I hope you see my reply. Yes, it was a lot of work to write this. I find myself writing fewer and fewer posts because it is very draining. But it's healing too, for me and, in some cases, for my readers too. I'm sorry you're so isolated. I imagine Covid has made it worse. Thank you for all your kind words about my post. Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-79720301721148020812021-01-21T15:14:11.267-08:002021-01-21T15:14:11.267-08:00Gosh. Thanks! I once had someone tell me that I ha...Gosh. Thanks! I once had someone tell me that I have no idea what suffering is because I have "skinny ankles." I had no idea how to respond.Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-1056910394855375752021-01-21T15:13:27.935-08:002021-01-21T15:13:27.935-08:00You're welcome.You're welcome.Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-45385190104355935202021-01-21T15:13:18.849-08:002021-01-21T15:13:18.849-08:00Thank you for really listening, instead of getting...Thank you for really listening, instead of getting your back up and telling me why I'm wrong. That's the norm. Pass this on to your abled friends.Charlotte Issyvoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081140798331499819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-1552139452433878912021-01-03T20:00:31.639-08:002021-01-03T20:00:31.639-08:00Excellent! I have multiple "invisible" d...Excellent! I have multiple "invisible" disabilities myself, and I am one of those who carries my cane with me even on good days because I am afraid of people not believing that I am disabled. This was an amazing, eye-opening read for me and it even revealed some of my innate ableism. It's like realizing you have innate homophobia even if you are LGBTQIA+, and being able to recognize it and let it go.Morgan Veronica Majorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12024183315859324240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-77306411390579225562020-09-03T09:04:16.126-07:002020-09-03T09:04:16.126-07:00😯👍🏾🙂😯👍🏾🙂WiseWomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00571221743723850516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-26132341067299619312020-09-03T09:00:21.131-07:002020-09-03T09:00:21.131-07:00They who feels it knows it!They who feels it knows it!WiseWomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00571221743723850516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-3858676404818790612019-06-30T12:46:25.567-07:002019-06-30T12:46:25.567-07:00Now, imagine being told these things since you wer...Now, imagine being told these things since you were a child, a then a teen, and THEN an adult.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06949868702712291806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-15024116673170757802018-12-06T09:16:19.452-08:002018-12-06T09:16:19.452-08:00Wow! It's part of my disability that the first...Wow! It's part of my disability that the first thing I can think of to say is ... WHAT a LOT of work that was to write what so many of us think every day, some or all of it. And so well said. So feisty. Thank you. I'm 63. We have a lot in common. I've been very involuntary isolated strictly due to age these days, but always due to the differences my abilities and multi disabilities produced for others to purposely render me invisible. I'm been so down, despite all the reaching out, the one foot in front of the othering. You made my day. Just your whole deal. And I read EVERY word. Thank you for telling your story and daily stories. I'm inspired. And can pick up the "pen" myself again today strictly due to finding and reading YOU! I have shared this huge endeavour you so graciously and necessarily put together for us to read with a FB metoo group I manage. And to my own page. You rock. Thank you.page turnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09514354194138296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-64184014887826659532018-04-19T17:26:57.976-07:002018-04-19T17:26:57.976-07:00This is the best explanation of disability life I ...This is the best explanation of disability life I have ever readAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13757043596378636927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-83519792379793016192018-04-08T15:51:20.124-07:002018-04-08T15:51:20.124-07:00Aaaaaaargh! You have great style and beautiful eye...Aaaaaaargh! You have great style and beautiful eyes. (No, not adding "so you should be happy with that" or any such tripe.)Lucy R. Fisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08632983296994349550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-14015736426079256722018-04-08T08:18:28.279-07:002018-04-08T08:18:28.279-07:00Wow. Eye-opening. Thank you. Wow. Eye-opening. Thank you. AHAviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00143467149327284907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-371230315197236857.post-48520733773858423172018-04-08T01:32:44.647-07:002018-04-08T01:32:44.647-07:00Thank you for this. Wasn’t easy reading as I like ...Thank you for this. Wasn’t easy reading as I like to think that I’m a right on person and yet I know I’ve said some of the things you listed. I found myself trying to justify it then realised I was ablesplaining, such a useful term. I’m going to work on what I say <3Lythanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820869686392457427noreply@blogger.com