I think this an awfully pretty outfit. It was inspired by styles of the 40s and the 50s. In a way, that's it, the whole story of the outfit: I wore it because it's pretty. But, as I looked at the photos later, I found myself thinking a lot about the civil rights heroine, Rosa Parks. Let me explain why.
My first reason for thinking of Rosa Parks was my hair style.
Rosa Parks often wore braids pinned over the crown of her head ...
|Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr.|
I'm not as good at the hair style as she was, but I'm working on it.
|Blouse, skirt, and shoes: Mod Cloth; Scarf: gift from a former student; Parasol: boutique; Barrettes: Stylize; Cane: fashionablecanes.com; Ring, sunglasses, bracelet, brooches, and earrings: vintage|
My second reason for thinking of Rosa Parks was this 1957 bus on display at a recent "car free day" in my local 'hood.
I didn't actually make the connection to Rosa Parks until I saw this photo of myself on the bus.
It really made me think of Parks and her incredible dignity and bravery. In the southern United States in the 1950s, even buses were segregated, with African-American people (then called colored) having to sit at the back of the bus and relinquish seats to a white person if the white section of the bus was full. In 1955, Parks refused to do this, remaining seated when a white person wanted her seat. This seemingly simple but calculated (she'd worked with the NAACP to plan the act) and incredibly brave act led to the Montgomery Bus Boycott which played a central role in the ending of segregation in the south.
So I was already thinking of Parks when I got a few really negative, cruel comments on my last blog post.
In choosing to write honestly about the child sex slavery I endured, and its lasting impact on me, I do render myself quite vulnerable to attack. So far, the response to Sublime Mercies has been overwhelmingly and heart-warmingly positive, but, for some reason, this last post brought out a few haters. This included a non-Jewish woman who said I had no right to call myself Jewish, and accused me of using my blog as a "thinly veiled" effort to "get attention" for my past. She then banned my posts from the Google+ boards she moderates.
Wow. Her first criticism is so absurd, I can't see anyone bothering to take her seriously. The second criticism is, I think, the real problem for her. Writing about vintage style and child abuse in the same post? But that's just icky. It's not nice.
I have never "veiled" the fact that my blog is, in part, about child abuse. It's right there in my "about" section. I don't write about child abuse to get attention for myself. That's hardly the kind of attention I want! Would you?
No, I write about child sex trafficking, PTSD, and the disability caused by abusers for an entirely different reason: to raise awareness of severe child abuse issues, and to try to end child abuse. I don't claim to be any Rosa Parks but, like her, I do feel it's important to speak up and fight for what is right, which often means speaking truths that people find distasteful and unpleasant. No, child abuse isn't "nice," but that's my point. Don't blame the messenger.
So, I speak up, even when I feel I'm doing it all alone, uphill, in a mobility scooter.
Fighting for what you believe is right comes at a cost. Rosa Parks is universally loved now, but this wasn't always so. She suffered for it at the time. She was arrested, she was fired, and she even received death threats. My few online trolls are nothing compared to what she endured.
I hope to God I wouldn't have been one of those white women sitting at the front of the bus and even demanding seats in the "colored" section if there was nowhere else for me to sit.
I've always tried not to be that kind of person.
My case is a bit interesting in that I actually belong to some fairly oppressed groups but I can "pass" as someone who does not. I'm bisexual but, since I'm with a man, I can pass for straight. I am disabled but my disability is invisible so, with effort and a lot of pain, I can pass as able-bodied. I'm Jewish but I can easily pass as a gentile. And I was sex trafficked but I can pass for someone who had a "normal" childhood. If I wanted to, I could keep silent about my life story and who I am; I could, metaphorically, sit at the front of the bus.
I make the choice not to do so, not for my own sake, but for the sake of others, especially children. I speak out about injustices. I always have. I seem to be hard-wired that way.
I choose to let people know I'm a back of the bus kind of person.
It's not always easy. This past week's attacks on my blog are a case in point. It would be a lot easier to shut up and blend in, invisible and silenced but no longer a target. But I don't do that. I choose the harder path because I think it's the right path, even if it comes at a cost.
That's why it really hurts to be accused of selfishness in my choices. If I were thinking only of myself, God knows, I wouldn't be putting myself out there the way I do. I would snuggle down with my honey and have a nice, quiet, life, invisible to the haters. But that's just not me.
But enough of that! Now back to the fashion.
I got the skirt, shirt, and shoes from Mod Cloth (who really should pay me for all my ringing endorsements!). This photo was supposed to show you how the skirt flowed elegantly in the wind, as if I were a damsel on horseback.
But I think this photo shows it better.
You know I love old-fashioned clothing, and I felt this blouse fit the bill.
Its colour reminds me of old, faded paper and its overall look reminds me of old seed packets from the turn of the last century.
If you read Sublime Mercies often (and, bless you, some of you do), you also know that I love pussy bows (though I loathe the term "pussy bow"). I couldn't really go wrong with this blouse, could I?
Isn't that brooch wonderful? I got it for $2 from a street vendor.
Here's a closer look at both brooches.
They're enough to make a gal like me glow all over.
You know what else is enough to make me glow? That font on that exit sign.
I'm like that. I can get all tingly inside at the sight of a really great vintage font, like the ones on the vintage ads on the bus.
Some of the ads were clearly not in keeping with 1957. Well, it was clear to me, anyway. For example, the girdle ad above me is obviously of an earlier vintage, probably the early 1940s; the sling back, peep toe shoes give it away immediately. But, oh!, aren't the fonts on it glorious?
Here's another glorious font.
I borrowed the style from Frida Kahlo. I braid a scarf into my hair, then loop the braid over head and back down again, tying it at the nape of my neck. Frida, of course, tied it on the crown of her head, for a fancier look, but I'm not quite ready for that yet.
I like the pink of the scarf. I think it looks good with my pale skin but I also wore it because it was national Aboriginal Day. No-one else could see its Aboriginal images, but I knew it was there and that was nice.
Honestly, though, I think the scarf-braid style looked better here, with a dark brown scarf that blended in with my hair. I might stick with that till I get better at it.
Speaking of pink, though, you probably noticed my parasol?
Yes, of course you did. It's rather eye-catching, is it not?
Even in the summer, I'm so pale that I have blue circles under my eyes which, curiously, have never really bothered me. They add character?
The best I can achieve is unhealthy freckles ...
... that almost look like a tan, if you squint.
So the parasol is a good thing, as well as a pretty one.
It's a bit awkward for my crippled body...
... but it was helpful on this bright, hot, Rosa Parks, festival kind of a day.