Monday, December 14, 2015

Nobody's Cheerful Cripple


I'm under the weather with a bad cold right now so my next fabulous post (on 1930s, ruffled, day dresses) is on hold till I feel better. 

Until then, amuse yourselves with my cranky self in this little meme. I'm quite sure all of my readers with disabilities and/or chronic pain will be able to relate to the frustration that comes when able-bodied people tell you to "think positive" about your disability. These are people who can't make it through a common cold (like mine) without whinging and getting pretty darned negative. Pain sucks! Not being able to get around sucks! You have every right to get sad about it, or cranky, or irritable. You have every right to have a little cry from time to time, or to have a big, blubbering, snotty, sobbing cry every day. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel! Oddly, once you let it all out, you might find that there is a little room for the positive after all.

So say it together with me now: I'm nobody's cheerful cripple!

Didn't that feel good?

Now back to your regular programming. 

(I'm sharing this with Not Dressed As Lamb.)
qwerty

7 comments:

  1. That actually did feel pretty good. Thank you. Hope your cold disappears.

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    1. So glad you tried it! Screw positive thinking. Realistic thinking is where it's at.

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  2. Crying has a purpose. Tears contain chemicals related to stress. And crying does other good stuff. Have a look, if you're not already familiar with this: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/7-good-reasons-cry-your-eyes-out

    I always, always feel better after a cry. And the more pain, the more disability, the more distress of any kind, the more we're going to feel like crying. I don't have the extent of disability and pain you do, but I have people in my life who do, and I've had age-related, wear-related pain for a few years now. So I have a bit of personal understanding, and some observational understanding, and a whole lot of compassion. Cry on!

    And you're looking fabulous in that cape and the bit of aqua fluffle peeking out from under it in the meantime.

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    1. Crying helps. We don't need science to teach us that, though it's nice to have science to back up common sense. Thanks for your compassion too. And the word "fuffle" just makes my day. I did take outfit photos that day but I was in such a sour mood, I don't think I'll turn it into a post.

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  3. I'm also remembering the first article of yours that I read, where you talked about what the holiday season is like for you. I'm sorry.

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    1. Yeah, as usual, it was tough this year. It starts with Halloween (about which I also have horrific memories) and just keeps going, really till after Easter, but Christmas Eve is the worst. I'm still recovering. Thanks for remembering that. So few people care to do so, preferring instead to preserve their "positive" but incomplete vision of the season.

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    2. This season is full of unrealized, and unrealistic, expectations. Many people find themselves experiencing depression after the holidays due to this, and other factors. Your added experience would only exacerbate your disillusionment, and potential suffering. I thought about you as the season approached, and hoped that you didn't suffer too much. I'm glad you had the joy of finding, and being found by, Beau.

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